Life Balance Counseling Blog

Self-empowerment

It is easy to get caught up in your emotions and feel like you are loosing control.  Whether you feel like you are loosing control of a specific situation or your life, you need to realize you have the ability to influence your future through the decisions you make.  You have the ability to take control and manage your emotions, feelings and the way you think and act.

Maybe you are thinking, what is she talking about?  I am talking about self-empowerment.  Self-empowerment comes from within your inner being, soul, mind, feelings, and thoughts.  We have the power to change the way we think, feel, and act and are in control of choosing what you envision for yourself.  I know it sounds easier said than done, but like everything else in life, change takes time and dedication.  Only you can be accountable for yourself and your responses to life's situations. 

When you can accept responsibility for what you think, you can influence the way you feel and act.  For example, lets say you are running late to work, your alarm never went off, you lost your keys and you are angry at the world.  If you choose to think, "I am late for work, today is not my day and it is going to be a crappy" then more than likely the rest of the day will be crappy and you may feel irritable, angry or sad.  If you change the way you think and choose to think, "I am late for work and there is nothing I can do to change it but I have the rest of the day ahead of me," then you are setting yourself up to have a good day and will generate positive feelings.  Our minds are powerful in generating positive and negative emotions and you are in control.    
Accepting responsibility can be challenging but is key in becoming empowered and recognizing that you are in control.  Our responses to our experiences help determine our futures and the decisions we make today.  Responsibility means overcoming fear, the unknown, and learning new ways to think, feel and act to create the life you want for yourself.

The beauty of life is the journey we go through and realizing that you have a choice!  You can choose how you want to cope with life’s challenges in either a positive or negative way.  If you choose to respond to life's challenges negatively then you are choosing to experience negative feelings of anxiety, fear, and sadness.  If you choose to respond to life's challenges positively then you choose to experience happiness and empowered.  Becoming empowered allows us to personally grow, experience happiness and peace of mind.

The purpose of this blog is to start generating your own thoughts about how you think, feel and act and how you can take control of your life, become self-empowered and influence the future you envision for yourself.  Life is too short, take action and make changes today!

Ask yourself:

  • Am I holding myself accountable and responsible for the way I think, feel and act?
  • How can I change the way I think, feel and act?
  • What do I envision for myself? 
  • What outcomes do I want in life?
  • What are my goals?
  • What do I need to do to achieve my goals?

"The lack of action is not a result of depression; it is the cause.  And inactivity is most often a choice rather than an inescapable factor of life.  Action is also a sure-fire way to avoid being victimized by yourself and others.  If you decide to do something about your problem, than grumble about it, you'll be on the road to changing things around for yourself."  -Dr. Wayne Dyer